It’s a sure bet that things have not gone your way lately. Many of us feel trapped…but there are engaging ways to do more than wallow.
We used to spend our time in a day in, day out, usual state of emotional normalcy. This included highlights of the best of times and unfortunately, the times when nothing seemed to go right. You know what I mean?
And all this uncertainty and fear is magnified as we listen to the news or even go out and encounter so many who are now masked. This situation is before us every day and threatens to strip of us our joy.
So perhaps it’s time to take control of your own joy and well-being.
Maybe you can’t control what happens in the outside world but you CAN control yourself. There are things you can do to maintain a positive and even joyful mindset.
Here are 3 tips for doing just that:
1. Surround Yourself with The Right People
It is often said that we are the sum total of the five people we surround ourselves with most often. If that is the case, making sure you get the right people around you, especially when going through a difficult period, is critical to holding on to your joy. Often times when life is really beating us up, we retreat into the solitude of our home, wanting to throw the covers of our heads and be left alone with our thoughts.
It’s true that sometimes periods of solitude are healthy and necessary. However, when you find yourself feeling low, robbed of your joy, connecting with those who make you happy is a no-brainer.
And the opposite of that is also true. Negative individuals are especially important to keep out of your life when you are struggling to find joy.
Technology is your friend when you are sheltering in place at home.
- Face Time on iPhones and Video calls on Android
- A simple phone call
- Zoom and other video conferencing software can bring together friends and family while staying safe and following health official’s orders.
- Good old-fashioned letter writing – remember that?
2. Remember That Nothing Is Permanent
The Buddhists have it right when they say: Nothing in life is permanent.
And it was the Sufi poets who taught us: This too shall pass – when they were asked to imagine the thought most truly and universally applicable to human affairs.
Fortunately, nothing in life is permanent! Let’s state that again, this will pass.
When we experience happiness and joy, thinking about the temporary nature of this state is not something we choose to dwell on. Let the good times roll, right?
On the contrary, during the low times, no matter how bad it is, it WILL pass.
Most of the time, TIME is the only remedy for tough situations. If you want to maximize your joy during this time, remember that your situation is not the way things are, only the way they are RIGHT NOW.
3. Base Your Happiness on Yourself
Since we have discussed how life is divided into highs and lows and the fact that nothing will last forever, this leads to another thing to keep in mind during the best AND the worst times of life…
If you want to experience joy on a consistent basis, your joy absolutely cannot be dictated by your circumstances.
If you let every good thing that happens to you leave you soaring on cloud nine and every negative situation send you crashing to earth, you will find yourself emotionally exhausted! Stable, consistent, sustainable joy can only be created and found within yourself. That means you’re in charge.
Life is far less about what happens to you than it is how you react to it. Don’t fall into the routine of letting happiness get to your head and failure to your heart. Hey, that’s not fair…to yourself.
There is something important called mindset. Sometimes it’s a way of thinking and being that comes naturally and sometimes we can choose to cultivate it. Change the way you are thinking and it changes your life.
So how can you change your mindset? Well, you can download visualizations and listen to them; you can meditate; you can get a life coach; you can learn self-hypnosis; you can, well, do something you LOVE on a consistent basis.
The fact is, you can choose to enhance each day while you wait for these times to pass. Then you and possibly your family, can come though this with something of value.
If you are ready to take control of your mindset please email me for FREE instructions for doing self-hypnosis.